How many times have you found yourself saying these lines: "I can never ever forgive you for this!" ?? We all have at some points of our lives. In those situation, forgiveness seems to be the most difficult thing to do!
It's because somehow we blame ourselves for the situation we are in. If the person you love betrays you, you feel it was your fault you trusted him/her to begin with. If someone hurts you, you feel that it was your fault you let him/her break your heart.
But you need to forgive yourself first. You do not need to carry the burden of what has happened on your shoulders. Forgive yourself for doing what you feel you did wrong. Only then will you lighten up and feel free to forgive others.
Even after telling yourself, "It's ok. I forgive myself." if you find it difficult to forgive the other person then well, you are holding on to them. Not forgiving them is not really punishing them but stopping you from moving on!
It's true that you may never be able to trust that person again or be friends with that person. But forgiving them will help you to NOT think about them and regret them every moment of your life. It's ok to let go of people from your life. It hurts much less than holding onto them and feeling sad about it the whole time.
To forgive and to forget is something you sometimes absolutely need to do. In this case, forgiving seems much easier than forgetting. We are humans and not robots. We cannot delete memories. But memories do fade out. The moment you stop giving the person you forgave any more importance in your life, your brain automatically pushes the memories right at the back of your mind.
Forgiving is the the only way to move on by all means. Nothing about that incident or person should stop you from moving forward once you have forgiven. You feel free to live the way you want without having a nagging feeling at the back of your mind. You get to feel good about yourself and about everything else around you. :)
So go and forgive whoever you have been regretting till now. Let them know that they are forgiven. Set them free too! You too will feel much better about it. Take a deep breathe and smile to yourself. :)
It's because somehow we blame ourselves for the situation we are in. If the person you love betrays you, you feel it was your fault you trusted him/her to begin with. If someone hurts you, you feel that it was your fault you let him/her break your heart.
But you need to forgive yourself first. You do not need to carry the burden of what has happened on your shoulders. Forgive yourself for doing what you feel you did wrong. Only then will you lighten up and feel free to forgive others.
Even after telling yourself, "It's ok. I forgive myself." if you find it difficult to forgive the other person then well, you are holding on to them. Not forgiving them is not really punishing them but stopping you from moving on!
It's true that you may never be able to trust that person again or be friends with that person. But forgiving them will help you to NOT think about them and regret them every moment of your life. It's ok to let go of people from your life. It hurts much less than holding onto them and feeling sad about it the whole time.
To forgive and to forget is something you sometimes absolutely need to do. In this case, forgiving seems much easier than forgetting. We are humans and not robots. We cannot delete memories. But memories do fade out. The moment you stop giving the person you forgave any more importance in your life, your brain automatically pushes the memories right at the back of your mind.
Forgiving is the the only way to move on by all means. Nothing about that incident or person should stop you from moving forward once you have forgiven. You feel free to live the way you want without having a nagging feeling at the back of your mind. You get to feel good about yourself and about everything else around you. :)
So go and forgive whoever you have been regretting till now. Let them know that they are forgiven. Set them free too! You too will feel much better about it. Take a deep breathe and smile to yourself. :)
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